What is a SOFFA?
The term means:
A SOFFA can be supportive spouses, partners, friends, parents, children, or coworkers of a transgender or gender diverse person.
Why Provide Support for SOFFAs?
Whenever someone makes the decision to transition to a gender expression that matches their identity, the lives of that person's loved ones change as well.
What Kind of Support do SOFFAs Need?
SOFFAs need a safe and confidential space to talk about their own feelings of grief, shock, and fear. They need a place to process feelings with people who are or have been through what they have been through. Because of discrimination toward transgender and gender diverse people, SOFFAs may have a limited number of people in their lives to talk to about the situation.
A note from the librarian... if you are a SOFFA, I want to make sure you know that it is okay to feel all your feels about your experience and this space is for you. I have put together this page because there are not a lot of resources out there for the "Significant Other" part of of the SOFFAs, and your journey is very different from that of a parent or ally. You are welcome here.
The books below are ones I've personally read. While they are not perfect, and in the case of Boyd's book, some of her terminology is a decade behind, I still felt they were useful for SOFFAs who need to find information written by other SOFFAs or written by trans persons for guidance to their cis partners, or potential partners. If you have any recommendations for the collection, please contact the Women's and Gender Studies Librarian.
The Reflective Workbook for Partners of Transgender People by 
Everything You Ever Wanted to Know about Trans (but Were Afraid to Ask) by 
Trans Love: An anthology of transgender and non-binary voices by The resources below were selected by the Women's and Gender Studies Librarian. Much like the books above, these resources are not perfect, but hopefully they are useful for SOFFAs seeking answers, information, or community.
